How are you doing today?
I hope you are doing better. I posted an answer to your ? in my thread. Please take care of you honey. I will be gone most of the day with my kids. I am taking them swimming at the local YMCA. I will check on your thread later. \:\)
Please be good to yourself and take it easy today. Your H is asking alot of you and I give you alot of credit for your strength. I do think that when you are ready you need to set some boundaries. And I do think that DBing or not your H is asking the world of you. You will never heal while he is still a BIG part of her life. My personal opinion. MY H OW is my SIL's best friend.

....and I feel like I have done ok. For the most part.

but she will be a part of his life b/c of that.

but at the same time that does not mean he still had to BE a part of her life.
... do you see what I mean?

Sure you are supposed to be compassionate and turn the other cheeck. But your H is asking if he can run you over and then drive off. NOT OK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you are ok with it and can rise above it and deal with their contact fantastic but if you are not then you need to find a place where you feel safe and in control of you.

For you cannot control him or her ever !!!!

......you can only control CISSY and the way she will act and behave. All my best to to you honey you are in a difficult situation. Foolow your heart but do not let it be used , love from afar and do not let him own who you are you own who you are and he will be there whole heearttdly or not and you need to take care of you. Yes we are supposed to lovingly detach. I personally waited for my Miracle. But I gave myself permission to love me and set boundaries. Being humble does not mean putting up with absoulutely everything.Just make sure you are ok thats all.
XOXOXO you surely need more than that but thats a start.~
God bless you Cissy.....