Hmmm...My first thought was that MsHD actually sounds like a fairly reasonable person in her own words. You know, the tone of this exchange isn't all that different than the tone of the exchange that I had with my H recently except that my response was pretty much "Okay, then let's move on.". One thing my H brought up (I think due to the fact that he spent most of the two weeks he was home "sick" watching the international movie channel) was that he considered whether he would be comfortable with a "French" arrangement, basically an open marriage. He said that he decided that he was too "American" to deal with that. (Further odd note: He also said that if I became a lesbian it would 'kill' him but he laughed when he said it. Maybe he just said it to be mean.) Clearly there would be no benefit for me in having an open marriage because why in the h*ck would I want to keep taking care of high maintenance H? Anyway, my point regarding your sich is that I think that you should do what NOP indicated but the other Schnarchian option would be to do your own version of the "bar anecdote". Because you are a good friend I will help you out. Here is your reply:
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Dear W, I am sorry that we have reached such an impasse. I respect your frank and honest reply. I love you and appreciate all that is good about our relationship. However, that does not negate my need to be a sexual person. I suggest that we agree to disagree on this important matter and work towards a sophisticated and mature compromise. My good friend Mojo, a book dealer, who I met on the BB where I have been working on my end of this issue will be in town on August 24th for the YMCA book sale. I will be meeting her for drinks at (someplace nice like the Morgan) and possibly more to follow. Please update your calender.
Mostly Platonic but Husbandly Love, HD
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
