It doesn't seem like it should be so difficult for H and me to communicate in a postive way, but it sure is. Would love your feedback on a situation from earlier in the week:
On Tuesday he told me he was meeting his brother for a beer at 4:30. (I was still at work when he told me this). He had worked hard that day around the house and I understood why he wanted to go out for a beer. At 6 he wasn't home so I ordered pizza thinking that pizza and H would both arrive soon. (He left his cell phone at home so I couldn't call him). At 7 he called and asked if I wanted to meet him, BIL, SIL, and 2 other friends(the friends I have mentioned before that happen to be members of the opposite sex) for dinner. I explained I had already eaten, but thanks for the invitation. He asked if I minded if he stayed and I said no. I said this sincerely. I was happy that he invited me, but I was tired and was busy helping D16 move things around in her room. I was in bed by the time he got home.
Now tonight he started talking as if I'm the "bad guy" because I "refused" to go meet him and now it looks like we're not getting along and that I don't like his friends. He told me I should come out more often and join them so I could see what wonderful friends they were. I told him I thought I was doing him a favor by not going (meaning I trusted him). I also said this was the only time he had actually invited me to join them and maybe we could plan to go out together soon and then ask others to join us instead of me joining them. He got mad because he said I was twisting the words around and he didn't see why he had to be so careful how he said things. I also reminded him that I had invited these friends over to our house for dinner. I also told him I had called several times and they never returned my calls. They never call H at the house; only on his cell phone.
So, I had to leave for my boating class (I invited H to join me, but he declined). He leaves early in the am for a business trip.
