I don’t get you at all. You complain mightily about BB and when I give you some ways you can break out of the standoff you’re in, you start to give out excuses for her. What do those 5 physical discomforts have to do with restoring intimacy in your marriage?
So do you see some of the reasons I consider her predicament so carefully and feel some responsibility, to adjust my need for a sexual R with her, but not give up a sexual R all together.
No, I don’t see any reason whatsoever how her “predicament” prevents you from breaking down your barriers, building intimacy and having more sex. Sorry, don’t see any connection at all. She just had sex with you, didn’t she? Did she complain or did you?
BB is a little like Mrs. Choc. She wants to be chased but isn't interested in the full take down. Me on the other hand, I don't feel like chasing with out doing the takedown.
Several times this difference in sex drive feels like mother nature played tricks on both of us.
Stop trying to find someone or something else to blame for your passivity. If you can’t see where you are standing in your own way, there is little more I can do to help you. Best of luck
