Sorry to jump in so late but you wrote "He just happens to have an intense connection with two people" No one just happens to have intense connections, those kind of connections take time and effort. The intensity is called infatuation and ALWAYS feels like you've found the one and only. In order for that intense connection to germinate and grow it takes time and watering. People aren't just knocked out of their socks one day, they see it coming and let it come! My W said "no one planned for this to happen" and I said "I guess aliens just sucked your brain out of your head and you had no choice but to cheat on me". Don't allow feelings to legitimize something that you know is wrong. When you say you will never ask him to leave his girlfriend or stop him if he says he wants to work on their R, you are trying to bargain with yourself, "See I am a moral person, look at what I am sacrificing, I won't be responsible for anyone else's pain by doing this" It's you playing mind games with yourself, understandably. It still amazes me how good people (I will assume you are a good person) will allow themselves to get tangled up in such situations that can ONLY result in pain for themselves and any others touched by it. It might be good to know that about 97% of couples in A's NEVER end up getting married and of the 3% who do over 90% end up in divorce. Frightening odds, like your chances?
