You will really feel good about the DB coaching. Chuck was my coach and if I started off on something that I wasn't in control of like the OW. He would tell me that I wasn't in control of that and the only one I can be in control of is me. He would make suggestions that were really helpful and very positive. I suggest that you write it down as she tells you so you can go back and remember and reenforce your new ideas and goals that she will help you set. BUT then the hard part which from experience is to have the strength to try and work thru the things that will help YOU. and to find you and what you need to work on for you not H.
Like LIn says if he brings OW up change the subject and don't even think about it. If you feel like you are going to take off and ask questions or vent take a minute and a breath and like Lin says tell him I don't want to talk about her right now.
One person helped me when I would get a feeling of anxiety to ask to many questions or call him to many times or any of the stuff that you and I have both done is to think " OK God this one is in your court . YOu are going to have to handle this one for now." It just helped saying that and it was like I tagged teamed it to someone else to handle for a while. Might work Might not but it did help me sometimes when I was by myself.
Think POSITIVE and Have PATIENCE.....Think I can do this. Good luck and I hope it helps. Good luck tomorrow morning.....You will feel better.
