I think this is where I belong

[Jack_Three_Beans]

MLCer's, it seems to me need to be liked by their children or completely ignore them.

What better way to be liked than to be the 'fun' parent?

I read that somewhere too.

Reconnecting (I believe) is when she starts acting like a responsible parent, loving her children, without seeking out the children's approval.

If parent's needed their children's approval, this world would serve candy for dinner.

(smile) no offense, but nothing is innocent when your mother talks to you about your MLC wife. Your mom ultimately doesn't want you to suffer at the hands of someone. Be cautious understand your mother's motives as well.