Okay... So I just scheduled an appointment with DB coach Jody for tomorrow morning at 9am. I'm nervous and excited all at the same time. Please tell me this is a good step for me!
So will you all please help me with some bullet points of what my goals are? I made a list of all the pertinent dates that things have happened so that I can go over that with her. Then, here are my goals so far: 1.) Get stronger - no desperation, neediness, clinginess - I KNOW what I need to do, but I need to find the strength to DO it 2.) Get H to notice me again and feel attracted to me as a person and a wife 3.) H to come home when we are BOTH ready 4.) When H does come home again, find ways to be able to communicate so that we can work out the issues the got us here 5.) Be able to focus on our business whole-heartedly again
And here are some personal issues I need to work on: 1.) patience 2.) being controlling 3.) being obsessive (asking questions a million different ways, etc.) 4.) lack of confidence 5.) "debating" him during conversations 6.) talking too much - he is silent 7.) accepting what H says rather than trying to say it a different way or rephrase the question to get him to see my point of view 8.) me running the show - scheduling things for us, doing things for him, etc., - not letting him be the man he wants to be
Will you PLEASE help me add to my lists based on what you've observed of me? I really, really want your honest feedback so that I can get the most out of both this session and in working on ME!
