Okay...you all ready know what I am going to say...yes you boo boo'd big time with the emotional crisis on H....make sure you don't do that again just because he seemed to take things okay this time....believe me those backfired on me big time....H began to think I was using them as emotional blackmail on him...and to create guilt in him even though I wasn't and told him I wasn't...remember their thinking isn't always so clear in this mess either...
I CAN NOT STRESS ENOUGH....STOP ASKING H ABOUT THE FUTURE OF YOU TWO, THE BUSINESS, FOR HOPE....YOU WILL KILL ANY CHANCE YOU HAVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am serious here...you have to leave this man alone....you MUST absolutley stop QUESTIONING him....he may be passively allowing this....but you don't know what he is thinking...and you could well be adding nails to your coffin....accept what he has told you....write it down...I mean it...write the questions down...his answers....and carry it in your purse...when ever your tempted to ask....get it out and read it....LEAVE HIM ALONE!!!
As for HIS PARENTS TRIP...leave a message for him on his phone when you know he won't answer...or leave him a note on his desk where you KNOW he will see it...just explain that you won't be going on this trip...don't ask if he wants you to go...if he is still going....just state that YOU WON'T be going and to give his parents your regards...then for God's sake don't mention it again....PLEASE!!!!
Vegas...WONDERFUL THAT YOU ARE GOING ALONE!!!!....AGAIN He needs to see you taking care of yourself...just leave a message that you have decided to go to Vegas on your own....the dates you will be gone if he needs to know for business reasons...
PLEASE PLEASE stop bringing up the business with him and if you should dissolve it or not...you might lead him thinking down the wrong path....he has answered you again....write it down and refer back to it...
I think it is GREAT that you are going back to the gym...this will do wonders for you....you need to be unavailable sometimes....try this...next time he calls to ask if you want lunch...tell him thank you but you have some plans...you need to SHOW him that you can be strong...that you won't fall all over self because he calls...that you can be that self assured woman that he felt in love with before....
Really I want you to think how you would feel if you were questioning your feelings for H and all he did was keep questioning you after you answer...and then act depressed and break down and cry to you about how aweful things are and about how bad he is feeling....insinuating the entire time that if you would just come back to him he would be okay...
NO ONE WANTS TO BE TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR ANOTHER'S HAPPINESS...it isn't healthy....it isn't fair!!!!
I want you to know that I am not beating you up....I have been where you are....and I know how very close to the edge you are...and how close you could be pushing your H....some men can snap very quickly and before you can blink it could all be over with NO MORE CHANCES!!!....I don't want that for you...I want for you to find out how wonderful you can be on you own...then you will be the best compliment to a man as a wife....this is what your H is missing...it will take time for you to do this...it will take even longer for him to believe it...and you can't be asking him if he notices...you just have to BE YOU...THE BEST YOU that is possible....
Today is the day to start training yourself....set a goal...and keep it....add another goal each week....maintain, maintain, maintain!!!
