Muddle, you know you tried to meet both parties needs, what she wants (in my estimation)is a partner with no needs whose world revolves around hers. Is that reasonable? Nope! You worked towards a compromise and SHE felt that wasn't good enough and wasn't willing to negotiate. Tough nooggies (is that a word?)!Oh, I forgot, real love means never having to negotiate Wow, if I could count how often I've heard "you should have known..." It's as if we are supposed to be focused compeltely on their world and have no needs of our own. Our minds should be completely focused on them! Now, something to ponder, probably by stating that you were unwilling to do any more than what you suggested because she didn't tell you earlier set up the "you should have known" exchange. Basically you said "you're wrong" and she responded with "no, you're wrong". Sounds like the old cycle repeating as you mentioned. How do you disrupt the cycle next time? It's worth thinking about.
