HD my W gets excited about how a car looks, so does my sister. In cases like this, I am not a painter, but a mechanic. I don't look at the paint or color when purchasing a car. I look at what is underneath the visible exterior.
I think Ms. HD is looking at things from how she feels and couldn't see the paint on the house and trim because she only sees the wood that is underneath. She is a tree grower and you are the painter. She doesn't see the value of your concerns and isn't willing to do much about the M you two have.