This is all going to sound really strange, but you are going to have to teach your husband manly assertiveness, and it will have to be done in stages.
What I want to help you do first, is to set a distance between your femininity and his masculinity. We want to highlight this difference in order to begin to define his masculinity. This will require commitment on your part, and you will have to eat your pride at times.
Stage 1: Making your husband a gentleman.
In you interactions with your husband, whether it be a relationship talk or a casual conversation, I want you to bring up some requested changes to his behavior. Present the requests as actions that will make you feel more womanly.
1) Ask him to start publicly opening doors for you.
Then the next time you are out together in the car, stay seated and wait for him to come and open the door for you. Teach him to help you out of the car by taking his hand as you exit. When entering the car, wait on him to open the door and help you get seated.
Same rules for all doors at all establishments. If he forgets and moves on ahead of you, stand at the door and wait until he notices you. Wait for him to return and open the door.
2) Ask him to seat you at restaurants.
Stand at the table and wait. Also wait for him to pull your chair back as you get up to leave. Expect him to stand, at least slightly, if you have to excuse yourself to go to the ladies room.
3) Ask him to make choices on restaurants and movies. You can make suggestions, but let him decide.
When you are seated with him at the movies, if it is just the two of you, make sure that you take his arm while seated and anytime you move in or out of the theater, make sure that he is leading and that you are holding on to him.
Your responses to his actions should be to smile softly, and lean GENTLY and very lady like into him whenever you take his arm. Stay silent until he starts a conversation, then let him lead. Don't offer comments about your day until he asks.
For a while, you become June Cleaver.
Are you with me so far, and is this something you think you can do? If so, I will go on to other areas such as sexual interactions.
By the way, I really liked that you cooked him a cake.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
