do think we also need to talk about R/M... how can you end it w/o a conversation??
You are not ending this. so take such a question and burn it. MLC dos not mean a marraige is over. Infidelity does not mean a marraige is over. A marriage is not over because one party wants out and thinks it is over.
BUT... It is on hiatus, and really, your old marriage is dead--even if it was a good one. You can grow into a better marriage through this journey.
the first job (you can do it vene if it is difficult) is to discard that negativity about how can it be over. It's not. Beleive in that.
If you actually want to end your marriage...then have a relationship talk with him. This will be contrued as pressure and pursuit and he will continue to retreat. Right now your goal isn't even to get him to stop retreating...cause he's going to go deeper into this crisis whether you like it or not.
So let him. And while he is doing that, you will be doing your thing. You need to focus on yourself and find you own inner stregnth and peace...so he has someone strong to return to when it is time.
