Ali,

You sound fantastic! What a great role model you are right now for those who've been beaten down and seem stuck in the mire. You're getting YOUR life in order, taking care of YOU, loving YOU and it feels great.

Just want to have you think and prepare about something. Now it sounds to a certain degree like you're creating some expectations that your H might not be completely aware of. It's OK to expect certain things, as long as your partner knows what those things are and agrees to provide them. Otherwise, might be better to NOT expect them, and then it'll be special if you do get them.

Bottom line is, while you've been getting yourself, "in the mood", you H might just come home and be the "same old guy". Even if you give yourself fully to him, he may not change right away into the man you expect him to. So I just want you to think about the fact that you'll probably have to work at it, coach him a little. Be patient, but be clear about YOUR needs and expectations. It's a time to not be shy, he needs to hear you clearly in simple words, blunt, and clear.

W and I went through the Retrouvaille program a few years back. It helped ME emmensly in communicating and understanding my W. I highly recommend it for you and your H.

God Bless You,

COG

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