When I attribute seeming negative motives, I am not suggesting that its intentional. ok?
I appreciate sharing this with me. This is true. Dont forget it. As I said to you, approximately one month ago, I do not think I will ever want to make love on a weekly basis, at least not while we are both working full-time and raising a family, and even after that, there are no guarantees.
She said I think. She did not say NO. That means its a test, not a boundary. She is stating what is draining her, and the last is just a push to see if you really love her long term. She is comfortable where she is and with the amount of effort she is expending. Why would she volunteer to do more. People dont typically do that. People need motivation to step up.
At least right now, though, I am too stressed and tired much of the time. Leaves a opening for you to identify but then tries to make you feel guilty.
If I did so simply to satisfy your needs, it wouldn’t be making love, at least not from my perspective.
Hogwash. Doesnt want to open up to being vulnerable.
For me, making love is an act that we both do willingly.
So why isnt she willing every day, if she loves you?
While I might try things to make myself ‘willing’ more often than I would if left to my own devices, putting some sort of schedule or required number of times to make you feel loved isn’t going to work for me. blah blah blah . What is this MIGHT try baloney? specifics. Where when how. This might crap is really crap coming from a lawyer.
Do you remember talking about this? I get frustrated because it seems to me we keep having this same discussion over and over. You say you ‘get it’, but if so, why do we keep coming back to this? her frustration is with herself. What did you say you 'got' HD? Did you placate?
If this is a need you have, so be it, but I can’t satisfy it – I just can’t. I find that unacceptable, and untrue. Unless she is physically impaired she can. She wont. There is a differance.
I do love you, but if you can’t be happy with who I am and what I’m willing to do, There she just admitted it. its about being willing not about being able.
that is your choice, and I respect it. I think you need to do some soul searching, and if you can’t be happy in this relationship, then we both need to move on. another negative push begging for attention. She needs to do some soul searching. Is she really willing to be indifferant to you, and lose you because she is unwilling and tired?
Ask her. Is that what you want Ms. HD? Do you really detest having sex with me that much that you prefer for us to move on? Do you want to move on? This is where you will have to not personalize her rejection. This is where you will have to FIGHT her for her.
Ugh. Makes you want tie them up in the basement and spank some sense into them
I am tired of this Im sure she is. She has resources she doesnt know about. I know this is tiring for you HD. You can do it. you have nothing to lose by fighting her for her, and everything to gain.
