is there anything that would make her feel less stressed and tired?
I don't know the answer to this, but it is a good question to ask her. Frankly, I'm about at my limits of taking on additional duties to make her life easier around the house. I thought I was already doing that, and had been doing that for about the last three years.
As for "having it all", hold up a sec. This "tired and stressed" may be valid, in fact, I'm sure it is valid. But it just seems like the latest reason (a familiar one, to be sure) for her to not even ML once, not to mention once a week.
It's like the analogy of painting the house. You say, it sure would be nice to get the house painted. The painter shows up, starts prepping the house, and prepping, and prepping. Maybe gets a board or two painted. Then preps some more. Maybe doesn't show up for a week or two. You notice that the boards that have been painted are fading, and, dang, when was the last time the painter ever actually painted? You talk to him. He tells you about the importance of surface prep. He preps some more.
Don't you just want to see him paint the house? Make an effort beyond the nominal?
I feel like it's time to stand out there and grab his hand, put the brush in it, and show him what painting is like. When he sees how much happier the house owner is when some painting is getting accomplished, maybe he'll paint on his own. Either way, I'm tired of talking about the painting.
