I said we are far from being fixed and that we will need to go to counseling together and he should probably see someone on his own. He's not sure of why he would be going just yet - to get over her or to fix us...Had a hard time answering this one.
The answer is to work through both.. first the get over ow and then to work on your M. I think it could really help him right now!
HB, I think you are great. You know that you need to guard your feelings. It's ok to feel good about H talking about moving in the right direction. But, at this point it is just that - talk. Remain your awesome supportive, non-judging self and talk will turn into action!
Even with the positives in my sitch, I have to keep reminding myself that OW is STILL in the picture. She has NOT fallen off the face of the earth.. bummer..
I like to think of this as a step-by-step process: 1st - H has to commit to the A being over and not contacting OW; 2nd - H has to grieve his loss (that will be annoying to watch!!); 3rd - only after one and two have occurred can we work on our M.
