Just tell your spouse to start posting on the boards too. S/he might learn something about you and about his/her self so you kill three birds with one stone.
Most S are not willing to do that though Cobra. Is yours? I agree that it would be a tremendous growth experience for the couple but probably also VERY painful and lots of S like mine that still tend to be avoidant are not willing to open up even more wounds. Not that I blame him. That's who he is and we have plenty on our plate already. Plus some people use the board just to vent and have no intention or desire for the S to see it. Whether that is "ok" or not is debatable I guess.
