No Contact for the sake of Sanity

[Cinderellaman]

Hi BND,

I hope you don't mind me posting this.....but I found an e-mail that your H sent you about a year ago.....and now afJUST GOT THIS EMAIL FROM MY DH:

I am angry at you because you are someone who is only cooperative when things go your way. You wonder why I am "being nice" to you? It is because I fear your wrath and your sense of entitlement when it comes to my life. That is not love. You still don't understand. I am feeling less of the pressure than I used to from your wrath. But, I am very uncomfortable with your knowledge of some things in my life...like my social security number for instance. I don't know at what level you can show self-restraint. This is the truth which I believe is hard for you to hear. I am sorry. I want to work with you and be a partner in seeing the best for our kids but I am not interested in maintaining a marriage with you. I have given you no indication I have changed my mind. If you want to be ugly about things then that is your way. It only proves you have not grown or changed. I don't want to be lectured or threatened or preached to or manipulated or made to do anything I don't want to do or have to do. Most of my life has been spent living it for other people's needs or fears or prejudices. I want a chance to drive my own life. This is an old conversation. I have told you over and over again where I stand. Your therapist has told you. Move on. I do not want to be your husband, but I do not want to be your enemy. No one made this choice for me...I made it on my own.

I am not going to waste any more time on this. You can work with me to the benefit of our kids or you can work against me for the satisfaction of your own ego. It's up to you.
ter what you have told me.....Yes it is a MIRACLE !!!!