Not an expert, but I see my H becoming one of the kids all the time too...he loves them to bits, and he's never been very 'grown up' with them, because he loves to play with them; but now he's either really being a kid with them himself or he's really strict with them...I often wonder if that's good because sometimes the strictness starts as soon as he sees them and the kids never know what to expect !
About reconnecting...I'm not sure, they do say that reconnection starts with the kids..how long are you post bomb ?
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
