Theoden; Now that's what I'm talking about. That man, that knight, that is the person you were meant to be at this precise moment in history.
There is too much at stake to settle for anyone less. As many here have said time and time again, "we" are the only ones we have any controll over. Who do we choose to be? Our children are betting their lives that we can be the men we were meant to be.
To a certain extent, our wives are betting on it as well. I really don't know what all is going on in my wife's head, probably wouldn't want to, but I can feel in my heart her need for me to stay strong. I in no way mean to imply that by being strong I have the ability to save this marriage, only that I think that without that strength it is doomed.
I am glad to have helped, now go polish your armor and feed your horse, I mean steed.
81388 Me 43, waw 44, 3 kids(D15,D12,S6)Married 19yr, together 27yr. Bomb 11/27/06, Separated 3/1/07 Divorce filed 4/18/07,
"Because it is in giving that we receive; In forgiving that we obtain forgiveness; In dying that we rise to eternal life" St. Francis
"I think that is what we all have planned for ourselves....However getting there sometime feels pretty impossible..."
I hear ya man, but isn't that just life?
We have goals about so many things, and it seems like there is always something pulling this way and that, so we set priorities and focus our energy on those things that are most important.
You have been able to do what you did because you focused on the well being of your kids, not on yourself. Trust me brother, your kids are going to know that because they get to see you in action day after day for the rest of your life.
81388 Me 43, waw 44, 3 kids(D15,D12,S6)Married 19yr, together 27yr. Bomb 11/27/06, Separated 3/1/07 Divorce filed 4/18/07,
"Because it is in giving that we receive; In forgiving that we obtain forgiveness; In dying that we rise to eternal life" St. Francis
This has kind of morphed into the heman thread, but I do think we all need a dose of that from time to time. It is nice to spend a few hours at our vacation destination; The land of right and wrong, where everything is either black or white.
When we return home from our trip we are once again faced with a world which seems to have so many various shades of grey.(sorry shades if your reading this) I don't think that it so much a lack of right and wrong, I know that still exists, it is that the situations are so complex and it feels like I have to choose between the lesser of two evils.
81388 Me 43, waw 44, 3 kids(D15,D12,S6)Married 19yr, together 27yr. Bomb 11/27/06, Separated 3/1/07 Divorce filed 4/18/07,
"Because it is in giving that we receive; In forgiving that we obtain forgiveness; In dying that we rise to eternal life" St. Francis
I think this marital crisis has brought up stuff I've needed to deal with for years:
1. Long-standing depression. 2. Vocational malaise, lack of accomplishment. 3. Emotional frozen-ness. 4. Lack of passion. 5. Being overweight and unfit. 6. Sleepwalking through my life. 7. Lack of humility. 8. Prayerlessness. 9. Living in fear. 10. Being a people pleaser. 11. Being a passive man. 12. Lack of vision for my children.
I DONT WANT TO BE THAT PERSON ANYMORE!
Arise now, arise, Riders of Théoden! Fell deeds awake: fire and slaughter! spear shall be shaken, shield be splintered, a sword-day, a red day, ere the sun rises! Ride now, ride now! Ride to Gondor! Ride now, ride now! Ride to Gondor!