Unfortunately, I am going through a similar situation. Short story, Him cheating, me kicking him out. He comes back, him cheating, me kicking him out. Seperated while he was living with her (that's a killer) He comes back and he was supposed to end it. 2 days after he's back, he says he must keep contact with her or he will go back to her. So far they have talked on the phone every day. I am having soooooo much trouble with this, never gets any easier. Alot of people hate him and think i'm nuts for being his "doormat".
I have never tried the DBusting techniques which I have just started. I think some of the techniques got him to come home, but now I have to get rid of OW. I hate her, and I am not usually like that. She is something else, but that could be a story in itself - read my threads) yes, I feel like he is having his cake and eating it, too. Not fair. For 2 years now and this is his second affair that I know of. I am hoping the techniques in the book Divorce Remedy work as in which to slowly ween him off of her farther and farther away and closer and closer to me. I figure I will give it a try. I have tried everything else to no avail. I am not perfect either, I have made mistakes, too, but I would have never done this to him.
I thought I had it almost whipped this last time. He agreed to end it with her, no such luck. It has eaten me up inside so much in the past 2 years I started turning into one of those lost "emty shell people". Depressed, Angry, Bitter, Hateful. I did not like myself like this at all. I found the book and a lot of it makes sense as much as it hurts. Have you red it yet?
I still don't trust him, if they are talking on the phone, it will lead to other things, and she has got him wrapped around her dirty slutty user of a finger.
I am on a couple of the boards, my life bounces around so much it is it's own "epic"! I am still angry at my H for causing so much pain in not just the immediate family with myself and our children, but it spreads out to the other family and our work as well.
I saw a shooting star tonight when i went to pick up my son from work. wished on it right away - but i will keep that one a secret. you never know, it may come true.
Keep posting. It does help to vent here and not on your H. Here you will not feel alone, either. There are alot of people that are going through what you are I am very sad to say. Read alot, that helps me, too.
