The only thing I can say, if you really want your M to work, and if you don't want your heart to get stomped on again, is that you must remain detached from your sitch/H. Things are moving slowly for you and in a positive direction. There is still OW in the picture. You H is still vulnerable and probably more confused than you are. So you DON'T want to pressure him.
I am doing the exact same thing as if my W just separated from OM, and I know her mind still wanders about him/what they had, but she is slowly coming around. I made a huge mistake in pursuing - you don't want to do that. You need to continue to give him space, acknowledge the good things, but not get too emotional. It will be hard containing and controlling your emotions. I know. If he says he wants time, give him time. This is going to get harder for you, I'm not going to sugar-coat it. Just take it one day at a time. No assumptions, no expectations.
OK?
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
