cac4, my exBF had an EA which lasted a year before I split with him. He was "in love" with this woman but to him he was not having an affair because they had not crossed the physical boundary. To me they were having an affair because all his emotional energy was focused on her. It is perfectly possible to be in love and for that feeling to be mutual without crossing the physical boundary. People will kid themselves that it is not an A because of this. If the SO accuses them of having an affair they can deny it. This is why the term EA and PA are used to clarify that it is in fact an affair whether or not there is a physical dimension.
Fran
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