Piecing - hopeful but scared

[Heywyre]

Sorry, but I have to agree with Cat - there is no friggin way I would be putting up with that crap!! Plain and simple

My H tried the same garbage with me - oh poor her, I feel like I am abandoning her, she needs me blah blah blah - give me a break!! So I said, "well I guess you have to make a choice then"

His response? "what do you mean I have to make a choice, if you are going to pressure me like this it isn't going to work".

I said "I am not pressuring you, you put yourself in this position and I am telling you that I can't live in a 3-some, you have to make the choice, her or me"

Of course, that is the readers digest version, it was much more lengthy and heated but we went back and forth and I stood my ground.

The result.... he is still here and has cut off ALL contact with her. Is he over her? Hell no! Does he still have feelings for her and feel guilty for "abandoning" her - sure he does. But the bottom line is he had to make a choice and decide what was more important in his life - I guess our R was. Don't give him the easy way out - you deserve more than the crumbs left over

Is this easy - no, do I wish he had chosen her sometimes - yes because I think sometimes it would be easier to move on without him that still be putting up with all this emotion. But bottom line is I am in for the fight and will give it my all until I know there is no other way than to leave and I don't see that coming any time soon