When the transference kicks in (that is, when you start having feelings about your therapist that are similar to or the same as feelings you had for your parents), then if the therapist screws up, you feel that primal betrayal all over again. This won't usually happen in the first few sessions. All the more reason to make sure you are very comfortable with the therapist and have build up solid trust before you hand over the goods (as it were). Kind of like getting married...
The bells always go off in my head when a person comes into therapy and lays out every horrible thing that has ever happened to them in the first session. I know the trust factor is all out of whack. They often tend to be Borderline Personalities as well. Display total trust and love for me and then proceed to hit me with the lighter shortly thereafter.
