Cac4, I learned to ask more questions before hand and take longer at inspecting the final product before singing off or saying good job. I work at my delivery and content when I speak to someone about what I feel is poor service or product. Number one, I doubt pre-delivery promises so much and in so many ways, it takes me a while before I decide to do some new things. Previous successes, no hesitantly most of the time.
If you are a conflict avoider similar to me, it is something that can be improved. Conflict doesn't always mean a good/bad situation is present.
cobra said he likes debates. I see their point but I also feel some/too much anxiety when in one.
What works for me is "trust and verify" it will get you to a place of more comfort.
