Discussion on MrsCAC4 thread - Making assumptions

[fearless]

NOP,

For the record: LFL did not mention you by name until you asked.

"Baiting" was clearly my interpretation. And since it did evoke a response, it was a bait. My question was whether it was purposeful and I will have to infer that it was not. Rather it is the way you communicate. No disrespect was intended and I certainly would not ask you to change. I am not sure that I would use the term feminizing but I think I catch your drift.

I do see a difference in the type of advice you give and for my own personal curiosity, I am glad to know it is purposeful.

yeah, I know I do it. It is not how I always communicate but I do fall back on it when I want to test the waters.

The funny thing is I am not sure how much he affected my self-esteem. I have a fairly high level of self-esteem I think. It just seems to make me demand even more from myself. Plus for all the cr*p I went through with xH there is a part of me that is very proud of the strength that I had. In my dark and twisty brain (I know there are Grey's anatomy fans out there!!) I think a less strong person would have left him during the first EA. But I actually felt good enough about myself to not let his actions make me feel demeaned.

And just for further insight into my twisted psyche. Your comment of concern for me just makes me want to reassure you that I am very okay (and I would have written that even if I was not :)) I cannot have you sitting around worrying about me!!

I did appreciate your response and absolutely meant no disrespect.