Starting this thread because I am intrigued by Nop's offer to help and of course anyone else who wants to throw their 2 cents into the mix are encouraged to do so.
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I meant no disrespect or condemnation. I did make an honest observation. I wasn't angry at you.
Having read your responses, I would like to offer another observation, even at the risk of further offending you. I believe that with the right interactions with your husband, that he could learn to be the more assertive male that you need in your life. I believe that you could help him with that. If you need ideas, I have some.
I also think that as you deal with your own demons, your experience can richly add to the resources of this forum.
Hi Nop
Thanks for your response and I more than welcome any feedback you have on making my H more assertive...and me less...well, you know.
He has made great strides since the bomb and our reconciliation. I am realizing more and more my part in this mess and I find that the respect factor is probably right up there at the top of the list. I was lacking respect for him. I could still improve my respect for him. It's a process of course. He hurt me very badly but I guess I have hurt him many times over the years as well. Just in smaller doses. He just saved his resentment for the grand finale. But it's water under the bridge now. I am tired of living in that past. I want to have great love and respect and desire for my H. So whatcha think?
