Mrs NOP I bet this is based on the assumption that good girls don't "put out" without pressure and that premarital sexual activity is always instigated by men. Bad assumption.
Oh grasshopper. you are partly right but in a the man is the leader world it implies men, don't be tempted to let some hot pu$$y/sex/and your chemical based in love feelings" run ahead of what you need to sustain a life long M.
It is also put in terms, more in line with leadership teachings that we have all heard before, the cruder version; "Men don't let your d!ck run your life" " some times when you play, you pay"
In some more modest terms it's meant to be practical advice to men, treat your partner with royalty like regard, as if you didn't realize she was so valuable.
I think something similar (shame based teachings of some religions)to this or attitude wise, causes some of the Madonna - wh0re problems, or causes people similar to Mr. HP to have hang ups. I certanially had and have my hang-ups I am working through. Throw in some female medical problems and I begin to think, why try some times. But I don't stay there long.
Those spouses who don't want to be told what to do by others and those spouses who don't want strangers knowing their "business". I will add, We have to appear to be good people that have their stuff together and if we go to C, we are admitting flaws.
just about every HD woman here has expressed the desire for their husbands to "top their top" sexually I will say, before I read this forum, that is one thing I never would have thought much about.
Like so many other males with LD W's mostly what we spend time thinking about is how to hold back very many thoughts about topping our W's top because our perceived W’s top is so low, if we went for desired top, we would get shut out of the marital sexual arena.
I can see for me, always thinking about flying low and feeling like I have been grounded,(based on my W's low top) leads to some depressive thoughts and actions, which leads to losing my leadership traits. I can see that isn't very manly.
