Trying not to break apart the pieces!

[cat03]

oh honey, I'm sorry you are having a hard time. I also know about leaving desperate messages in anger.

It seems like when you guys got together you didnt' adress the problems which to begin with tore you both appart. The thing about him not telling you until the day he left, wow, major no no in a piecing R, but again, it seems like it is stuff you guys never resolved.

I am grateful for our great C, which we saw for about 4mths and were able to work on our issues. I keep finding myself reading R books and seeing all my C talked about. Hon, failure to communicate is not the whole reason, it is also HOW you communicate that creates problems. I found an awesome awesome book which described to a T how my R went down hill and how to fix such debacles. I want you to NOW get "why can't you read my mind", in it, you will see the toxic thought patterns in which couples get caught on and why Rs fail when they dont' have to.

I will ask you tomorrow if you've read the book or if you are still marinating in anger about something that you and him should've settled on before it happened again.