Cinderellaman - I am not tough because it makes me feel good. I once remember BND having a real go at someone on their thread, and they have been so much better ever since - and I think of BND as being the gentlest and most compassionate of people.
Don't beat yourself up for feeling bad. You wouldn't have loved your h much if you didn't feel bad. That is the problem. Acceptance will only come gradually, and you will have set backs - that is why we are all here for each other. I just hope there isn't a day when we all feel bad at the same time!! Like women who work toegethe getting on the same cycle.
Anyway, feel free to vent here. Complain to us, not your h. To him you are cheerful, pleased with life, and fine. Practice makes perfect. Your kids love you, your friends and family love you, and you don't appear to have money worries.
Oops wrote back a whole lot !!! Lost it !!! Sorry.........in short and that may be the better version - I will take your wonderful advice, I feel alot better too, and I am off to enjoy the world !!
I will leave the e-mails for what they were, no more replies, and this NC will have to stay for a while.
Thanks Angelica !!! Brandnewday said something about gardening....maybe I should take that up ...it might teach me to be more patient....
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Gardenings good. It's mentally stimulating watching things grow. Hmm.....no, that does not sound right. As they grow so s-l-o-w ok.....it's rewarding to see the end result!
{{{HUGS}}} from across the water
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
Cinders... Forget about whether the label of MLC is accurate or not. Just know that your H's behavior is not healthy. Healthy people don't allow a third person into their marriage. They don't walk around thinking they deserve this, and they don't walk around blinded to the fact that they are causing hurt to their family, even their own children! Don't buy into his reality. Remember that you are choosing not to go ahead and divorce your H, but you must think of him as gone, and move ahead in your own happiness, for yourself, and for your kids. That is your journey, and it's not a bad thing to learn, how to care for yourself in times of stress. You can do this!
Jeanette - thanks for your hug across the water...and it wasn't even a wet hug !!!
PWS - didn't get your post, sorry !! hahaha
Brandnewday - so many hugs to day, you spoil me rotten !!
NJ - you're so right, I keep thinking I have something to be sorry about, like everything is my fault, every time, but You're right, NO ONE in his RIGHT mind would let a 3rd person into a marriage....
OK GUYS - I'm off to dinner with two friends - I got a spontaneous invite this afternoon, see I am capable of GAL !!! hahahaha - You have all been so sweet and loving to me today, thanks....I really had a bad day and needed the support so badly. I'm off to 'try again', detach more, not feel so much guilt, and to try not to believe H's truths.....
Will check in later, shouldn't be out too late !!!
THANK YOU WONDERFUL FRIENDS !!!!
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
