can anyone decode his Man code and why he was being so awesome?
Let me try to help. You are growing, healing, taking care of yourself, moving on with YOUR life, and that is very attractive. He is miles away, and you are NOT under his control. You're going to the gym where men can talk to you, and your not at his fingertips. That makes a man very nervous. You are taking all of the right actions right now in creating intrigue. Well done!
Now a little concern. I can understand how flattering it must be to have him wondering about OM, why you did'nt answer your phone, telling your kid's to keep OM away, etc. Initially cute and funny, but those are control issues, and they will drag you DOWN! They may be funny and cute now, but jealousy and controlling behaivior is not going to take your R where you want it to go. So, I suggest that you nip that in the bud somehow. In a kind and loving way, he needs to know that it hurts you when he does'nt trust you. You don't have to be attila the hun about it, but he needs to know it's immature and it's demeaning to you. He needs to grow up some more in that department, especially after what he's put you through regarding infedelity. He has NO right to accuse you or be jealous, and YOU need to stand up to that or he'll not respect you.
Give him ALL of you, but you should not settle for less than ALL of him in return. Respect, honor, love and support.
God Bless,
COG
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