NOP did what he did. LFL did what she did. The specific learning came out of the specific exchange.
From where did the tension come? NOP or LFL? It came from LFL, based on her feelings, perceptions, etc. She chose to interpret NOP in a certain way, and thus her actions followed suit.
So? Had she not done that... if we could not allow each other the freedom to get heated and personalize it (or not)... would we be able to see ourselves?
I have to say, I'm a bit confused as to what it is you want to know, here. I think you are doing quite a bit of assuming yourself.
For example, think back to a few pages ago when I jumped into your convo to defend Cobra. I did so based on my own interpretations and assumptions. It left most of you in the thread a bit confused. So... are you supposed to change Who You Are and what you do so I don't misinterpret or assume? No, for it was my problem, not yours. You all were gracious to me when I explained myself... but I was the one who was having the problem, no one else.
