These are absolutely serious comments and questions that I have for the two of you about this exchange. I am really trying to understand better how different personalities interact and how we learn.
My interpretation is that LFL has acknowledged that she does have continued issues to face and that this exchange did help her. My ASSUMPTION is that NOPkins may think that this justifies how he originally challenged LFL (and it may be justified so bear with me). For me I give LFL lots of credit for being able to take this rough turbulent exchange and being open to searching for truth even though it was uncomfortable and heated.
My question for LFL is whether she thinks, and I understand this is just her opinion because it would be impossible to know for sure, that she could have gotten the same lesson without the tension? If Nopkins had quoted her as originally done, but had instead posted something to the affect of "LFL I am not sure whether you are referring to me or not. However as someone who is knowledgeable, I wish to share the knowledge I have gained through hard earned work and think that I have a lot of offer. I do wonder if this approach can intimidate or irritate you because you have undone work or internal fears that are dredged up? Have you looked at yourself to understand why you react this way?"
Now, NOPkins, I am not at all suggesting that I think you need to change your style. If you are fine with it and have no interest in the people that are turned off by your approach and gain nothing from it, that is understandable. So first off, am I correct in assuming that this approach is conscious and purposeful? If so, what is your best guess is the success rate of this approach? Since I have not been on this forum long, I also assume that you know LFL well enough that you may have known that this approach would end up working because she in the end is willing to look at herself and willing to seek the truth?
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Hi, LFL.
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Names?
What are your fears?
-NOPkins-
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
