Paul, we are all biased in our R since we are part of our R. We feel hurt and angry that everything is going on and it's always easier to blame others rather than ourselves. It's rare when we take on the responsibility of our actions that resulted in where we are now. The difficult part is that by the time we get here, our MLC spouses usually don't want us to correct the problems anymore.
Angelica, MLC isn't a sickness, per se, but rather it's the individual that has hit a point in their life where they have to acknowledge their own mortality and their future. To do that, they have to strip away everything they know to find out "who" they really are. Most of the time, they come back to the person they were, but they will ALWAYS be changed and not identical to that person. Some also change and are no longer anything like the person they were. We can only pray for them and trust that the person they were is the person they want to be again.
"I made the wall of shadow draw back, beyond desire and act, I walked on.
Oh flesh, my own flesh, woman whom I loved and lost, I summon you in the moist hour, I raise my song to you."
