I could stand up and name the sin for what it is and condemm their mother, but in the process what example do I set for them about forgiveness? When the thing does go south, what are they going to remember, that Dad stood up for his principles?
Do not condem her. It is not our job to do that. IMHO There is one person that can judge people and that is not either one of us. I know it is hard not to say something when you feel that your morals are being sacraficed. However, what the kids do need is a strong loving father that did everything he could do to save their family. That is what they will remember when this is all said and done...You do not want them to have any negative feeling towards you at all. So condeming the W will do nothing to justify what you main goal is and that is taking care of you and your kids. Let the W show her a$$ to the kids. They are not dumb they will see what is going on and figure it out on their own who is the wrong individual here and they will take action in their own way. You job is to simply provide love and security for them....
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I in no way intend to leave it at "it is OK" for people to do this to each other
Show your kids through your action. As long as you are there for them they will learn from you.
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I have no intention of remaining friends with wife if we are ever divorced, I would find that too painful
I feel you there brother, however, you do have kids and will have to remain civil for the kids sake. I am not friends with my STBX either but I will not let the kids know that nor will I talk bad about her in front of the kids either. When she is around and she is around everyday, I simply act "AS IF". It is hard sometimes but it is what is best for my kids.
Just my 2 cents brother..
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
