tigerleland is right. Time really is your friend (though it may not always seem like it). That doesn't mean you don't have to work at it, but it is a process.
Originally Posted By: MyWifeHasGoneCrazy
Can I ask what exactly it is you do for a living? You seem so collected and so insightful I was just curious. I wish I could be like that.
Sure you can ask, but I'd guess what you're really interested in is what kind of person I am and hope that it is reflected in my vocation. So I'll put it this way. My background is in business and information systems but I've always been drawn to law, architecture, and landscape engineering as well.
I'll give you a little tip about being collected and insightful. Wait to respond or react, think before you speak, learn from the mistakes of other before you make them, write (if you can avoid speaking) as it gives you the liberty of editing, and strive to be objective (particularly about yourself). Do these and the other two will follow.
Originally Posted By: MyWifeHasGoneCrazy
I'll do anything as long as it makes her happy all the while resenting her for it.
Yep, that's a problem. The resentment builds up and eats away at the relationship like a cancer. It's rather ironic, but many who hate confrontation avoid it because it is uncomfortable. Yet the resentment they build up ultimately comes out anyway and often in ways that create a situation that is far more uncomfortable than any they had worked so hard to avoid.
