Day of reckoning and had to come to a final decision. Got a bunch of e-mails and job suggestions FAXes from xw during work. Gave the xw one last call and one last question, asked her how serious she was about "him", she hemmed and hawed and I put it to her this way: "Do you see it as long-term, trying to figure out how to get rid of him or somewhere in-between?" She said long-term. Decided that I couldn't be happy living in that town/in that environment and shouldn't let my children be worn down to believing that an environment where two married persons had affairs and continue the R is accecptable which is what I belive her agenda is (to indoctrinate the kids into thinking it is all OK simply because she's happy).
Talked to S14 & S16 about the decision and they were both OK with it. Then had to make the dreaded call to D19, sure enough she turn on the water works when she heard and there was no consoling her at this point. Feel really bad that I let my family down but tried everything I could. Still believe in DBing and that it has made me a better person. Maybe someday Michele W-D will find a way to crack the WAW syndrome. When xw calls next, will be polite but frank and tell her that we are not friends, that the affair she had while we were married and chooses to continue is wrong and not to call or e-mail me anymore.
Good luck to you out there that are still married or are trying to get back together. The only advice I can give is no matter how much it hurts don't take shortcuts or take up with someone outside you marriage or if divorced, take up with someone that is married.
From observations, seems the ladies have more success getting their men back. In fact, can't recall a thread now where a man was successfull in changing his wife's mind and preventing the divorce. Anybody see anthing different? Again thank you all for being here and will pop in now and again since as I put in a previous post, I have a problem with letting go. Now please excuse me while I probably go off and have a good cry and try to flush all this out of my system. RJ
