Okay....your OBSESSING!!!...really, does it matter if he says good bye...he is excercising control over his life....he doesn't OWE it you to say good bye and he is showing you in his passive/agreesive manner...he doesn't want to say good bye because he doesn't want to create an opportunity for you to jump in with your questions....
Yes, counseling would be a good idea...I think I mentioned before that I went to a counselor on my own a few times...it helped me to set my focus on what I needed to do...she encouraged me to keep seeking my new career...she encouraged me to get out and walk...to do things for me...
You need to take control of YOU...stop feeling hurt and sad when he doesn't say good bye...instead just think "I have the office to myself...I can sing out loud if I want."...or whatever you can think of on a positive note about being alone in the office....believe it or not YOUR H DOES NOT MAKE YOU HAPPY...you have to CHOOSE to be happy...don't give him that control...
Also...I noticed that when you took the call and needed to tell him something you left a message for him to call you...a little bit of control issue peeking out....from now on just leave the message with him and if there is something you need to do he can let you know....and then DON'T call him...by doing like you did you created an opportunity to have him call you...where if you do the way I suggest you leave him the option of not calling and if he does it is because he needs something from you...see???
Okay...this will help too...take a 5 minute walk each day or when your stressed....deep breath and focus on the wind, birds singing, the pretty flowers....something other then you and H...I did this a lot...sort of free meditation...not over thinking but relaxing your mind on something calming...this will help with the emotions...it did wonders for me...
That was a baby step for your H to bring you lunch...don't expect it to happen again....if you have no expectation you have no dissappointments....don't look for baby steps to happen...I can tell you that in my situation I didn't see a baby step for at least a year....
Let it all go...work on you, focus on you, become happy for YOU....and did you ask about the DHEA...it did wonders for making me just feel much better....you can give it a try and see if works for you like it did for me...
