It sounds like things are going well for you, Rob! Glad to hear it. Your approach with D14 is right on. I teach kids that age, and the more you try to *make* them do something, the more they push back. Offer them the choice of this or that, then it's THEM hurting themselves. A fact I like to point out when they whine to me...

Control is a myth at best. All you can do is outline the choices and let them choose!

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!