Your're right - I was generalizing and so I'm busted. I was thinking cause and effect. If you're communicating well, are happy in that and respect the boundaries of a M, then they are less likely to happen.
What I was going for here is to say that what helped me a lot was to NOT take a victim's mindset. Sure, I didn't force the affair, I didn't wander - I messed up for my own reasons - took ownership and fixed them.
I think HMM2 will be fine, I'm sure of that...
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
