I kind of feel bad towards my kids. I told them that what their father is doing is wrong, but he is your father and he loves you no matter what happens. In the begining of the affair, their father was very distant with the kids. Only had them on his weekend and now he has them 2 nights a week and calls them on the nights he doesnt have them. I am very proud of him for that. Just dont know if I should tell him or not. He was never that close to the kids. Didnt go to soccer games much. Now he goes to everyone of them. I wont let the kids go to his house with her there. They dont like her(I use to watch her kids). He was pushing them at first and now relises that they are hurting and dont wan to be around her. I guess let them now that things happen and sometimes dont know why. But dont condemn your mother for doing it. Affairs are, I call, temporary insanity. They are confused and THINK they are doing the right thing. Which the right thing would be either work things out or get a divorce first. Hope this helps some Take care rabsnider
