Obviously, your hubby was attracted to your bubbly personality. It seems that he finds his head in a more somber place right now. I suggest that you really tone down your interactions to a "pleasantly concerned" level.
For now, use short, simple touches with him. Touch his knee, back, arm, whatever, but limit any needy behavior. Occasionally, touch him with a lingering touch, but not a continuous one such as holding hands. You want to make sure that he is not perceiving desperation from you, that will push him further away. Don't chase him for affection. When you sit with him on the couch, sit close to him, but not touching him. Let him initiate affection for a while.
In the mean time, let me ask some more questions.
How often is he interacting with his wife?
What custody rights does he have with his children? How often does he interact with them?
What is the source of the information that his children are being emotionally "poisoned" by their mother. How often is he discussing this issue with you?
How much time (in hours) do you spend with your husband alone each week?
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
