I know you want your children to maintain a good relationship with their mother.
And I imagine you want to remain friends with your wife.
Don't you want your children to know the truth? Sooner or later your kids are going to put two and two together. As you raise them in the Christian faith they will be exposed to moral absolutes..."Thou shalt not commmit adultery", "I hate divorce, says the Lord, God", "What God has joined togather, let no man put asunder." What are you going to say when they ask you the obvious, hard, questions?
What if W tells them it's OK for her to be in love with someone else, sleep with them and leave daddy? Do you want that as an example for your kids? Do you want, not only your kids emotional life to be shattered, but their whole moral/spiritual universe to be smashed?
I'm wrestling with this too, bro.
I guess the reason I'm asking, is I don't want my kids growing up thinking it's OK for Mom to have an affair, run off with another man, who in my case, is their godfather and my ex-best friend. I suppose some people might tell me it would be good idea for my kids to develop a healthy and friendly relationship with the OM.
Help me here, 8. The anger is smoldering in my heart like a wildfire. I want my sons to be men, not morally relativisitc wimps who are supposed to think it's OK for the best man at my wedding and their godfather to participate in the destuction of their parent's marriage. Sin and betrayal: let them know it up close. And, by God's grace, let them forgive it. But how can they know grace if they can't even name sin for what it really is?
