She's given us great detail about her husband's faults and failings. I wonder if she is as cognizant of her specific contributions to the failure of the marriage? If so, I would like to hear them.
Her husband's life has been a lie for the past 3 years and he doesn't have a clue. As an unrepentent adulterer, she is very likely to pick up another man at any time to meet her needs. She finds sex with her husband cringeworthy - does anyone doubt that he has picked up on that feeling?
What are her husband's needs? What are his complaints? What are his issues with the marriage?
As she states, she likes the status quo, she likes being in control.
Has she ever considered letting her husband know that she has one foot out of the door?
He would then have a choice to make:
1. Continue on as is, as his wife leaves.
2. Make changes to the marriage to make it better for both of them.
3. He decides that he wants to get some love and admiration of the side too.
4. Realize that *he* doesn't want to be married to her and chooses to divorce.
5. Chooses to divorce and seek a marriage with a woman who loves him for his stability and peacefulness as opposed to his current wife who lables those characteristics as boring and dull and denigrates them.
But, as long as she continues on her own personal, selfish powertrip of control, he won't know that he has been cuckolded for the past 4 years. And he can't make a decision based on the truth, since she's withholding that from him.
