after all he wants ATTENTION right, he craves it, OW gives it, WHY CAN'T I ??? WHY don't they want our attention, or do they secretly want it ???
This is exactly what I get confused about!!! All of it. I feel like if I go dark and don't talk to him it would make him feel like there's no chance of me wanting him back so he wouldn't even try. I talked to a DB coach sooooo long ago how DR says that you should try to figure out why WAS left for OP and provide them what they need and at the same time it says LBS should go dark to get WAS attention. Ultimately, he just said that we have to do what is right for us.
So, for me, there was a time that everytime I spoke with H, everything he said and did hurt me...at that time, I went dark. Now, I can handle a friendship and actually enjoy it. If I ever find out that H and OW are definately together, I don't think I will be able to handle the same kind of friendship. Sooooo, I guess that's what he means, decide what to do for YOU.
I know it's hard to know what YOU want sometimes. It's not always clear I should know, I posted some confusion on my thread today as well, but I think it becomes clearer and clearer with time. You just keep moving forward one step at a time and you will eventually be able to decide what feels right for YOU.
