Wow, that would make me nuts! Her telling you that she loves you yet continuing on with the OW!!!! At least my W says "I don't love you" which might actually make it easier to live with, if that makes any sense? I wouldn't bother telling her about your self imposed 1 year time limit, what would be the point? If you choose to extend it then that is a personal choice and has nothing to do with her. If you feel you can stay and handle it, then do so. Maybe, instead, you could just tell her some of the things you now appreciate about her behaviour towards you, give her some positives to work with...can't hurt. She must be doing something that makes it tolerable to still be there or you wouldn't be. Have a great trip Stubborn, you damn well deserve one!
