What I realized last night is that my wife and I were friends before we were anything else. Actually, when we first met there was little or no chance of it being anything other then that. I have come to the conclusion that we have come full circle. The only current relationship I have with her is that of a friend, so be it.
Our children addore their Mom, even if the marriage can't be saved, I will not do anything to damage that relationship. Do I think it is OK for Mom to leave and have an affair, Hell no! I think it is childish, selfish, hurtful, desrespectful, immoral, and just plain evil. Is that how I want our kids to think of their mother? Double hell no! What becomes of my wife's relationship with our children will be based on her choices and actions, not mine. In the mean time they can be spared the hurtful details of their mother's behavior.
I know in my heart that there is still a chance to save this, but I am equally convinced that to save it, I have to let it go. I have to really admitt that I can not fix this problem, but that I do know someone who can.
