The underlying issue for H is not really that he wants S6 to be able to complete his tasks, he sort of just used that as an example of what teaching responsibility was since I brought it up in that light.
From all I can gather from H, the underlying issue of S6's bedtime is the one-on-one time that S6 gets after D4 goes to bed. If it were up to me, D4 and S6 would go to bed at the same time, between 8:30-9pm. I've tried to address the issue of one-on-one time, but H won't go for it. I have my own opinions on what the real issue with the bedtime is for H, but it does no good to dwell on what I THINK the unspoken issues are.
Starting the bedtime routine earlier is all I've ever wanted. The routine can be as long as a 5 year old's list for Santa, I don't care. I just want him in bed ready to close his eyes by 9:30. H can't see where I'm compromising, he says I don't know how to compromise. He's convinced that all I want is to get my way and that I put in undercover, as 'what's best for S6'.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
